It’s been a while since I last wrote a blog post, actually, it’s been a few years. My life has pretty much stayed the same as I’ve grappled with the decision to make a change. I still care deeply for my husband, even though things haven’t gotten better and have actually gotten worse. Since 2015, both of my sons have moved out because they couldn’t get along with my husband and his daughter. This has led to less contact between me and my boys and has caused some resentment towards my husband and his daughter. Both my husband and stepdaughter show signs of narcissism, with his daughter displaying more of these traits than him. I’ve been going to counseling and have started packing up most of my things, but I struggle with expressing my emotions. Despite my husband’s narcissistic behavior and lack of communication, respect, and affection, he’s a hardworking provider for our family. However, there are things he used to do that he no longer does, and this has put a strain on our relationship.
Let’s go back to 2016 when we took a big leap and bought a house together. I was hopeful and excited, thinking this new chapter would bring us closer. But that dream faded when my stepdaughter and her son moved in with us. Eventually, her boyfriend and his children joined them, followed by news of my stepdaughter’s pregnancy. Our home felt crowded, and tensions rose as they made themselves at home without any plans to leave.
After two years of carrying the financial load alone, we asked them to contribute. When we got solar panels to save on utilities, they didn’t want to share the costs, claiming we were getting free electricity. Things hit a breaking point when they disrespected us in every way possible, refused to pay bills, and left without settling their debts.
Now, in 2024, the same cycle is repeating. They’re back at our door with more people and animals to care for. Despite clear boundaries and financial expectations, they continue to defy us and ignore their responsibilities. Their excuses and broken promises wear me down, leaving me drained and defeated. They paid rent for a few months in 2022, then stopped without explanation. We’ve been asking about payment but have received nothing. In October 2023, my husband told my stepdaughter she needed to start paying rent, and she agreed – but nothing has come of it.
We’re now stuck in a cycle of disappointment and resentment, with their lack of respect and entitlement turning our home into a battleground. Their unpaid rent hangs over us, a constant reminder of their ingratitude. We feel trapped in a never-ending nightmare, unable to escape the burden of these ungrateful residents. Since August 2022, they owe us $10,000.
I can’t help but wonder how they can sleep at night, knowing the trouble they’ve caused us. Their betrayal has left deep wounds that may never fully heal.